So let’s chat ladies! Imagine accomplishing all of your goals back to back; buying the car you want, getting your first apartment, traveling the world and landing a job with your dream company just to name a few! I know you would be so happy for yourself. You are officially on your own and it feels great.

Now imagine this: on the flip side you feel like for every accomplishment you check off your list you’re pushed a few steps back. Things are happening that are completely out of your control like your car being hit and the driver pulling off or losing your wallet with all of your credit cards in it.

I’m here to tell you that it is okay to not be okay! But only for right now!

If you let this feeling last for too long you may begin to have a negative outlook on everything. I know it’s hard to have a positive outlook when everything around you feels like its falling apart. Sometimes you have to take a day to yourself because you feel like “life is getting the best of you.” I know people tend to say that phrase is an exaggeration but listen, if you feel like life is getting the best of you then it is possible that it is. Not every battle is as easy for you to conquer as it will be for the next person. Don’t let anybody take you away from getting in tune with your feelings, but you also can’t stop yourself from turning things around for the better.

To help resolve that problem I created a three-day rule for myself when things aren’t looking on the up and up for me:

Day one– it is okay to vent because everything just happened, day two– it’s now time to assess the damage caused and how to fix it, day three– it’s time to put your assessments into perspective and your negative feelings to the back burner and begin to fix your situation.

Now don’t get me wrong, this advice is easier to give someone then it is to actually apply it to yourself but sometimes you just gotta do it!

Sometimes you just gotta do it!

This three-day rule sometimes turns into a ten-day rule for me because I’m so stuck on day one that I can’t even assess how to move forward right away, and that’s okay too. The end goal of the three-day rule is to accomplish it. The amount of time it takes to accomplish is subjective to YOU and the hurdle YOU are trying to overcome. And don’t forget that it’s okay to talk to someone you love and trust to help you get through the three-day rule in as little time as possible. Take the time that works best for you and don’t be ashamed of it, because it is okay to not be okay for right now!


Meet the Writer

 Jasmine Barlow is a twenty-six years young woman born and raised in Staten Island, New York. She graduated with her B.A in Mass Communications from SUNY Oswego. Jasmine currently works in finance but is passionate about writing. She recently launched Wolrab On Wednesday, a discussion forum to engage both young men and women in discussions about taboo topics. Check her out on Instagram: @wolrabonwednesdays & @wolrab_ .


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