That moment when you know exactly what Drake was talking about in Paris Morton Music. I don’t know what’s next for me. I don’t know what I want to do. I don’t know what direction I want my career to go in and I feel as if these are things I need to know right now.
Part of me feeling this way is because there are so many people who seem to have it all together. From getting their Bachelors to moving on and receiving their Masters. I have my Bachelors but I don’t know what I would want my Masters in and now is not the time for mistakes or wasted time in school. Then we have the people who have their own businesses going on, thriving businesses at such a young age. It’s as if they always knew what they wanted to do and who they wanted to be. Here I am, confused. As millennials, we realized there are no limits to what you can do and now we want to beat all odds. We don’t want to settle at all, some of us don’t even want to work for anyone else. We’re completely out of control nowadays, and we should be. But at the same time, our expectations can lead us to feeling disappointed in ourselves when we don’t reach a certain goal or get a certain opportunity.
It’s so easy to fall into a depression in your 20s in this generation. We’re so hard on ourselves even when it seems like we’re not focused because we’re too into our phones or social media. Sometimes that may be the case but for some we may just be depressed or thinking about how to get out of this funk. We want things fast and we want things when we want them. We graduated High School, thought we would be living this fairy tale life by 24 and we’re still working retail jobs and making ends meet. We wanted to be on our own by this age, driving cars, traveling the world, some of us wanted to be married with kids. But a lot of us think we aren’t halfway there. But little do we know, we are, because we already want more, there are people who don’t. When you think positively you attract what you want. We just need to keep pushing through.
“Midlife crisis” can go either way though. You may have some people who dodge depression and splurge and try to live a lifestyle they can’t really afford to make it seem as if they are happier and wealthier than ever. They’re in the clubs every other night, buying bottles, vacationing for the hell of it, buying foreign cars and still living at home with their parents. But its understandable. ” I ain’t saying I’m the nicest, but I live life like it”. You want to feel like you at least accomplished something. No one wants to be depressed so to avoid that some of us live in the moment and take life as it comes. For some people it may be that new foreign car, for others it’s the masters degree. In the end we all just want to be successful and live life without worries.
My advice is, learn who you are and be comfortable with being yourself at all times. It’s so important to understand your journey and why you are in the place you are in, and accept it. Once you accept it work towards change and continue to stay positive. Surround yourself around positive people and distance yourself from the negative. Prioritize your wants and needs. What may be success for you may not be success for someone else. Try not to compare your life to someone else’s because we have no idea what the next person is going through, or how much it took or didn’t take for them to get there. Stay true to yourself and your values and never fold.
I can’t tell you how much loving yourself and counting your blessings allows you to keep your mind open and brain focused on your journey. When you have an open mind the opportunities are endless. When things start to fall into place you will have so much to talk about and so much to be proud of. I can’t wait for the day I can look back and smile at the times I didn’t know what was going on in my life. I trust myself to make the best decisions for myself. And even if I am going through a “midlife crisis” it shows me that I care about myself and my life and I don’t want to settle for anything less than what I know I am capable of and anything less than what I deserve.
Whatever you do, just make sure you start somewhere.